We’ve been “together” for around 14 months. She has dumped me twice. For the duration of our relationship, she will go for weeks where she wants to talk to me all the time: first thing in the morning, on her lunch break, after work, before bed, all the time. and I absolutely love that. But she will go from that to barely wanting to speak with me for weeks at a time, at the drop of a hat, and seemingly for no reason.

Am I being used? Led on? Fucked with? I honestly can’t tell anymore. She is in an avoidant period now and I really feel neglected. I have tried talking to her about this many times but she does not really explain herself. What is going on here and what should I do about it?

I love her so much it really hurt when she does this.