You can see my post history for the full story, but my LDR partner was incredibly depressed and just insanely burnt out for the last couple of months.

Things looked like they were getting a lot better, he was accepting reassurance and being a lot more talkative! But he’s just texted to say that he actually can’t be with anyone right now because he has so much work to do on himself and he doesn’t think it’s right to ask me to stay with him while he has no idea what he’s doing or how to cope with anything in life.

There was a lot of love in the message, and he said he thinks he’s having a breakdown after an incident at home and is spiralling and ending this relationship isn’t what he wanted/thought was going to happen, and it’s devastating because obviously we’ve both been really trying during his depression and to have a previously amazing relationship end for something out of our control is so hard to face.

I left the door open for him because having been insanely depressed myself, I know this is something I’d have done in a breakdown and then regretted it as soon as I came out of it. I’m going to give him space because we’re not together, and then maybe in a month or so get in touch asking if we can be friends and see if we can be together again romantically when he’s on the other side of this shitty life phase.

I don’t know though, any tips or help or words of comfort would be so super appreciated 😭 this is so much harder than my last IRL breakup, we had such an amazing emotional bond and losing that feels like I’ve lost a limb