Been with my partner for around 5 months, we’ve always been LDR but have had multiple conversations where we’ve agreed we think it’s worth the travelling and it’s almost better for the stage our careers are in as we’re both just finding our feet.

He’s been really depressed for about a month, and our messaging has been incredibly sparse (once a day reliably, some memes here and there). We almost broke up at the start of it because I didn’t think he wanted to be together anymore but he didn’t take that option so I stayed. It’s been hard, LDR with almost no contact isn’t something I can recommend.

He’s coming home from Bali this week and I’d asked to have a progress check thing when he got home because I thought it might be helpful to know how his depressed episode is going.

He’s just sent a text saying that he’s exhausted but that the things I’ve been saying have been really reassuring, and that he’ll get back to me about how things are on his end soon when he’s figured out the words.

I’m fully catastrophising this as “he’s going to tell me he wants to break up” because his tone was so blunt. I’ve done really well with giving him space and I don’t want to ruin it by rushing him because I don’t think that would help, but I’m really worried.

Realistically, it’s probably the depression and exhaustion making it sound blunt when there’s nothing to really be worried about, but I keep thinking that’s just bias on my part, any advice/input? How do people deal with depressed LDR partners?