Kinda as the title says I guess?

For context, we’ve only been together a few months. It’s been incredibly healthy up to this point, and even now he hasn’t made me feel bad or wrong for communicating with him, and he’s said he wants to get better and he’s going to be working on his things.

He’s been very overwhelmed for the last month and ended up pretty much ghosting me. Honestly I think we almost broke up as a result, but he didn’t take that option and since then we’ve stayed in touch with a message a day and a plan to talk more sometime next week about what he needs going forward.

This whole situation is obviously anxiety inducing for me, I’m on the more anxious side of the attachment spectrum anyways and have been doing a lot of work to self-soothe and reassure myself that whilst the space is scary, it doesn’t mean it’s the end and he’s just showing up differently than I would in his position.

Can anyone who’s avoidant/dating an avoidant give me some advice please?

What I’ve done so far is - sent a mini video of what’s happened in my week that week to let him know I’m thinking of him (he said he liked getting them before the big space)

• have apologised for the amount of pressure I had put on him just before he ghosted (it was a bit ridiculous, I thought he was leaving though he clearly wasn’t but I was way too much in my own head to see it at the time)

• respected his space and not been contacting him outside of the daily message, usually letting him be the one to send it first

• have said I appreciate the effort he’s gone to to keep in touch despite being so overwhelmed and struggling, and reassured that I’m not leaving him and that his mental health isn’t too much

ETA: I know he’s not seeing anyone else and I’m not either, we’ve talked about infidelity and the impact it’s had on us in previous relationships and we would never do that to each other <3