i (genderfluid,afab24) met him (m25) on tinder back in november while i was visiting new york for a film festival. i ended up matching with him once i got home. we called often, not precisely romantically, for 1.5 months before we were going to meet up in chicago. it fell through the day of, and we stopped speaking as much afterwards. i ended up going to paris for the following semester, where we texted here and there (very sporadically), then i met up with him in brooklyn as friends at the beginning of august. we kissed and sparks flew, like, 3 weeks later i realized i have a huge crush on him. it was a slow development, and now we’re very into each other, and can really see a future.

we know this is all quick, and we’re trying to take it slow, we’ll meet up in november- that’s set in stone- then january and sometime in the spring where he’ll visit me. we’ve talked about the prospect of moving in together at some point if we’re to continue, but, when do you do that?