So, last week I'd come here asking for advice: http://www.reddit.com/r/LongDistance/comments/141vu3/advice_on_a_relationship_possibly_coming_to_an/

The TL;DR being that basically out of the blue, my now ex had said that she didn't think she could be in the relationship anymore after 2 years, with estimates of around 1-1.5 years til it wouldn't be long distance anymore.

After she said she was confused, but couldn't keep talking anymore, I didn't hear from her for a while, so I emailed her last night saying I was still ready to talk whenever she was, and she got back to me today and we just had that conversation.

After a couple hours that involved me discussing how I saw things going, and her bringing up that she had seen my timeline but wasn't sure about it now, and my saying that we could get through those obstacles and all, and that I thought it was worth working to deal with all that, she eventually countered with that she's not sure if she loved me in the same way anymore because of the distance. I suggested then, that it would be worth it to have her come visit while she has some free time in February before she goes back to school in March. At which point she said that she thought it would just be best to end this.

So, I don't understand, at all, why it is she had us spend 2 hours discussing the relationship, and where it was going, and how to get past obstacles and all, if she had already decided that it was done. And beyond that, why it mattered if she felt there wasn't something between us still worth trying to preserve. Seems like if she actually didn't think that this just needed to be over, she would've actually ended it with me in the first place rather than drawing it out 5 days to have a 2 hour discussion on how to fix a relationship she hadn't told me she'd already written off anyway. But there's nothing I can do about that. It's all up to her, and she's apparently decided now. I want to think that she'll reconsider this, given a few weeks, but that seems dumb.

So, wanted to thank the people that gave me perspectives on it, both here and on the IRC channel. It didn't get me to where I wanted it to go, but it did help me get through the last several days to have some opinions on what was happening.