Hey Ladies, This is long, feel free to skip down to the TL;DR if you don’t want to read all the deets.

I’ve been absent from this sub & discord for a while - partly because I’ve been working about 24 hours a day and partly because we weren’t playing with others due to COVID so I stepped away from all of the LS stuff for a while.

This weekend we started to think (and hope), once again, about playing with others once we’re vaccinated. I re-installed SLS & opened Kasidie and even downloaded a new app called BiCupid. We’ve received LOTS of interest and have repeatedly told folks that we are “just looking” for now and would love to chat but won’t meet up in person until we (and they) are vaccinated. We miss playing with others quite a bit, but his health issues and our fear of long haul symptoms are making us more cautious than others, perhaps?

At any rate, we are indescribably thankful that we’ve had the pleasure of each other’s company throughout this craziness - and I am still amazed that almost 2 years into our “new” relationship we still have mind blowing sex together pretty much every single night.

However, we’ve recently run into an unexpected new twist that wasn’t really a problem for us until we started chatting about full swap with a really hot and fun couple who we connected with immediately upon re-entering the LS arena. So I am just wondering if anyone here has experienced a similar issue to what we are facing (and/or hasn’t experienced it but might have suggestions).

Here’s the dealio...

When we first met I was 1 year out of a 5 year dead bedroom - at the end of a 25 year relationship that was so vanilla it was almost embarrassing. PCS (my bf) was the exact amount of kinky that I needed & wanted - and we’ve explored lots of fun stuff together ever since. From the night we met, we both thoroughly enjoyed giving each other (and receiving) amazing oral pleasure. This was such a surprisingly wonderful new experience for me because my ex didn’t like to give me oral and while I didn’t mind doing it for him, it wasn’t something I LOVED to do. So it was awesome to find that this new lovely man shaved his bits - and it was amazing how much I enjoyed giving him a blowjob, in fact I’d get off giving him oral!

Months later we started playing with others in February 2020, and whenever we were sexting prior to meeting new people, PCS would often mention that my BJ skills were extraordinary (among other lovely compliments) and one time he even told a guy (who’d cum sooner than he’d wanted to) that he bet I could help him get hard again with my mouth - if he wanted me to and if I wanted to try. He looked at me, I looked at the guy and said, “Fuck Yeah, if you want me to try I’m in!” He said yes and I was stoked to rise to that challenge and succeed!

After surviving a dead bedroom (for which my ex blamed me and my lack of sexual creativity) learning that my BJ skills were so appreciated made me feel like a fucking superhero.

Fast forward, during the pandemic we continued to have wonderful sex just the two of us. PCS inherited a genetic retinal degenerative condition called Stargardt’s disease and along with loss of vision, he suffers severe photophobia and skin sensitivity. A few months ago his super sensitive skin got even worse (and we both genuinely think his cock actually got a little bigger, too) then suddenly my blowjobs HURT him! It seems my molars are now hitting his cock and every adjustment we’ve tried doesn’t help.

While I was VERY bummed and longed to have his cock in my mouth, I was able to handle it... until we talked to this couple this weekend and it was sounding like we might actually meet up with them once its safe. We started talking about swapping and I wondered if maybe her teeth wouldn’t hurt him and he’d finally get to enjoy a blowjob again! Started feeling compersion and imagining his smile and his moans and dirty talk when he’s really enjoying a BJ and suddenly I was crying like a frickin’ baby.

Now I am so upset with myself. Not sure what I am feeling exactly, not jealous that he’d be getting a BJ from another woman, but very jealous that I CANNOT give him one. It fucking sucks.

So he and I talked about it and he was VERY sweet and empathetic. He asked if there was ANYTHING he might be able to do or say to help me feel better and suggested that maybe we could also talk to a sexologist or sex therapist. (I even tried grabbing some of that wax you use on braces to see if I could cover my molars - didn’t work)

So... I figured I’d ask here, just because all of you awesome ladies have demonstrated as much, if not more, combined knowledge and experience as a any therapist sexologist!

TL;DR My bf used to love my BJs but something happened and now my teeth hurt him. I love to give him BJs but never want to hurt him. Any suggestions?