I (22) haven’t visited my father in quite some time. I didn’t plan to today. But I ended up rollerblading almost 3 miles instead of around the block, and I figured I could stop by and ask for a ride.

I stop in, I ask for a ride, we start to chat. He tells me he has big news: he and his wife are adopting her brother’s young son, as the brother is unable to care for him. The kid is having issues from his upbringing and needs a better home.

I stop in my tracks. I’m incredulous. I point out that everything that is wrong with the child comes from parental behaviors that my father’s wife displays as well. My father immediately turned manipulative. And I could see the change on his face this time, plain as day. It was so pathetic I started to smile. I laughed, and I started telling him everything I had been holding back all this time. About being diagnosed with PTSD, about being physically abused, etc etc.

Once I started telling him the truth about all the shitty things he and his wife did to me I couldn’t stop. It was like a dream. I had always dreamed of this moment, where I would face my father and tell him exactly what I thought of him, calmly, and in control. And have the power and self-assurance to walk out that door, and never come back.

He got so angry. Went on a basic narc rant. Kicked me out. Kept trying to get the last word, yelling that I “could stop talking and just go”.

And I responded “Yep, mhmm, yep, okay” every time. Narcs lose composure so easily. It’s hard not to laugh when they don’t get to you anymore. I left with a final “Buh-byeee~” and then walked down the street to wait for my roommate to pick me up.

Unsurprisingly, I receive a text from my father. It was honestly shorter than I thought it would be. He’s kicking me off his health insurance because “this abusive old man who is such a shitty parent is done paying for you”.

Good. This confident, bright, and HAPPY adult doesn’t need you anymore. 😁 GOODBYE FATHER!

TLDR; my narc dad told me he and his abusive wife are adopting their nephew. i told him the truth about how awful it was to be their kid, and he’s completely cut me off. i’m finally free!