I turned 20 this year. I got good grades in school and at A-Levels, and could have gone to most Unis had I tried to get in, but still to this day for some some unforeseen reason, I didn’t do it. I thought I’d just be wasting my time for 3/4 years because I didn’t know what course I’d do and thought I’d just be going for the sake of it. I see all my friends advancing through life, growing up, thriving at Uni, working towards a long term career, and I’ve just spent the last year working in a coffee shop and a few other odd jobs here and there. I’ve given myself no real transferable skills, no higher education, one not massively built up my CV. I wake up every morning hating my job but knowing I have literally no other choice. I know I could be achieving so much more but I just don’t know how to, I’m just spending every day waiting for 5:30 to come round so I can go home, go to sleep and do the same the next day. I’m at a cross roads in life and I really don’t know what to do or where to go. I’ve not looked after myself well over the course of the last year and a bit - I’m still in good physical health, but not the best I’ve been, I’ve let my mental health deteriorate and feel like I’m a shell of the person I used to be - this isn’t some ‘I’m depressed and helpless, give me pity’ kind of post, because I’m not, I’m just being brutally honest with myself and just need some advice. I don’t know what I want to do with the rest of my life, and realistically, I’m at a point where I need to start thinking long term career rather than another short term minimum wage job just to keep me ticking along. I come from a family who’ve all made their own success so I suppose that subconsciously adds pressure onto my own shoulders to follow up on that, but I just don’t know how to. If anyone else has been in this same situation where they just felt stuck - how did you get out of it? What did you do? I feel like I’ve spent the last year or so stuck in Groundhog Day and I’m getting tired of it. Everyone I try to speak to just tells me ‘you’ve got your whole life to figure it out’ but time ticks past scarily fast and you don’t realise that until you look back and start to fear that it’s becoming too late