Hi, i'm 40 years old.. and for almost my entire life as the youngest sibling in the family, my father took it upon himself to put down my emotions every single day of my life. He would constantly disrespect me, treat me like a kid, treat me like I know nothing (I was a good kid btw, honor student, don't even drink or smoke, nevr did drugs, in fact I can count in my fingers the parties I went to since I'm was part of the nerd crowd in school and never invited to parties since we weren't cool enough, most of the jocks and those who kissed up to the jocks were invited tho), even if I was successful in life he would still think I know nothing and defer to my elder sister who was a party animal, failing grades throughout school, cared about reputation so much she actually planned a crime to intimidate me into silence to protect her social life reputation, she really took advantage of her position in the family and my dad's preference for elder siblings to make herself feel good about the respect she's getting so she can further her status in the world. So my family would constantly gaslight, intimidate, embarasse me in public just to put me at my place even if I did nothing wrong, sometimes even if they are the wrong ones I was just forced to take it and swallow my pride. I never was happy growing up because of this and I'm 40 years old, 3 years ago I decided to move out and find some peace for my mind away from manipulative people like this. But I am still recovering from trauma and all the negative words they threw at me. I never did put much value in my reputaiton, they can destroy me all they want, but words are hurtful and I think they are intentionally trying to put me down constantly, my sister and her husband even colluded with my dad to hire people to hurt my life. That's how much they want to keep their position in both society and in the family. And they are trying to keep me silent about it and not let the public know about it. just askind for advice on how to deal with these kinds of family, I don't know if it's a chinese culture thing as chinese people are old-fashioned, but it's almost castrating someone's freedom. Even moving out now, they still won't leave me alone to live a life which every human being has a right to, and still constantly planning things in the dark to hurt my life..