About 5 years ago I had received an ancestry DNA kit as I was interested in my genetic make up. If you don’t know ancestry it lists anyone you have DNA matched with, showing the amount of genetic material shared and by that it guesses relation. Well some time later a match shows up. This is a person I don’t remember ever meeting but we share a large amount genetically and they are listed as a possible first cousin. I am the oldest of my cousins and I know my family well. One day I get a message from this person asking who my father was and if he had any brothers. After the message I did remember that I do have a cousin on my dad’s side who I had never met. None of us in my generation had met them. After responding they tell me that are the child of one of my father’s brothers (of whom they still want no contact. They had been cut off from my dad’s side of the family by their mother after inaction by my dad’s side of the family. (Which I get). We had talked but they didn’t confirm it was who I thought I was (she had a different name on Ancestry than their actual name) but eventually they confirmed it was them. We have talked every once in a while over the last couple years mostly checking in, family health history or just holiday wishes. Even though we’ve been in contact for a while I still find it that I feel awkward to reference shared family members by familial titles (ie. grandmother, uncle) just because I know how long she’s gone without any communication with them. Should I feel this way or am I overthinking things?