Back in March, I (M29) was visiting my home country where I met a woman (F26) who is a bit younger than me, we hit it off immediately and we spent 1-2 days together. Afterwards, we decided to stay in touch and we communicate via WhatsApp ever since. I speak her language fluently and we live in neighboring countries. When we finally said goodbye at the end of the trip, we mutually invited each other to visit our respective cities. Just like me, she lives in a big European city. I haven't visited that city in quite a while and had plan to visit it again anyways prior to meeting her so now it's just a potential plus for me.

Here's where it gets complicated: While she told me she really likes to have people over at her place, she told me that her current flat is too small to have guests over though she did mention that she was looking for something bigger. In her last message, she reiterated (without me bringing it up) that she can't have me over BUT that she will gladly 'make herself available to give me a city tour and show me some cool places'. In response, I told her that my visit will have to wait because I have some important exams coming up and can't afford to travel until after I've completed them so from this December onwards. I also said that I didn't want to get too much into the topic of me visiting yet and that we can talk about it later on if she wants to. While I'm obviously not arrogant enough to think I'm entitled to sleep at her place, I'm also not really pleased about perhaps having to book a hotel for a few days. I'm concerned that I'll come for a 4-5 day visit and we'll only end up seeing each other for 1-2 hours once, I'd like to avoid that. Similar situations have happened before when I was visiting friends and it left me feeling really dejected and pissed off, I don't want to go through that again. I'm the kind of guy who likes to sit on a couch for hours, have a drink, talk, laugh, share anecdotes etc., it's just not something that can be properly done if I'm not staying over at her place and if we briefly hang out when I'm visiting I'll somewhat end up feeling like a moron afterwards.

Any advice? What should I do? Wait for her to get a bigger flat and hope that she invites me to stay over at her place than or go to visit her as soon as I can regardless of her flat situation, book a hotel and hope I don't end up hating my trip?

Just so we're clear, me and her are friends, she's (mostly) gay and I have no intentions whatsover with her. If something sexual happens between us then so be it but I won't initiate anything, that would be inappropriate.