A while ago I posted on here about giving up on love and despite being concerned about my dilemma, I got a lot of positive feedback from you all and I'm greatful for it. I've always been self conscious about my looks and the issues I delt with in my past. But after talking to a few people, I was made very aware of some truths we end up depriving ourselves of.

1. Invest in yourself because you're worth the effort (Whenever anyone tells me this I always thought it was doing an extreme make over or getting a new car to impress people. But that's not what it is... It's about finding what makes you happy and gifting yourself what you want from a partner. So if you're a big guy like me and you secretly want someone to love you, instead of thinking you're not worth loving, learn by starting to love yourself first. This could mean treating yourself a little better by dressing a little nicer, maybe telling yourself that you want to be health conscious, or it can be as simple as looking in the mirror and telling yourself "you got this".
2. It's okay not to like people, even after giving them a few chances (I've had this complex where every time I don't like someone, I felt like I was a terrible person for judging them so quickly. But after talking to someone about this, they made me realize that I don't need to be ashamed of creating boundaries on the people I do and don't want to know, especially the ones that give me bad vibes. A good example is that back in highschool I was basically forced into working with a teammate who was unnecessarily rude to me. Despite trying to get along with them and having a bad feeling about them since the get go I thought that "As much as they mistreated me, I won't sink to their level." My biggest regret, was not telling this person they were a dick and to do the assignment themselves or setting up any boundaries to make it clear to them that I wasn't going to deal with their shit. If someone is mistreating you and/or not respecting you or your time, you have every valid reason to exclude them from your life. I had to do that a while ago with a partner in college who didn't respect my time, especially since we were in the middle of a hurricane warning and he knew about it. Thankfully because I told him in the most polite way to fuck off, I was able to turn in my assignment before we lost power for almost a week, the same week the project was due. So yeah, it will feel bad but it's necessary if you want to get better.)
3. If you've been called ugly or something juvenile happens to you, remember, you're the adult (It's hard for some of us to realize that we are full grown people but sometimes we tend to feel like that same teenage kid who's still figuring things out. But if someone tries to call you ugly or do something juvenile to hurt you, remember, you're an adult and you have every right to act like one. That means being able to keep a calm and composed stance and to handle things according. That can range from calmly putting your vest down and walking away so that they can deal with their manager later when they asked why you left. To basically calmly saying in a calm yet booming voice "WHAT THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM!" As you tear their asshole a new one and go over everyone's head when you report them and their/your boss to his boss in corporate. If someone is cool with saying or doing shit that makes you feel uncomfortable, you have every right to be angry and upset to the point of expressing it. Obviously, don't get violent but make your claim and remember you can always choose to leave with or without saying anything because you're an adult who can make their own decisions, not the right or wrong ones.)
4. Lastly, learn to be more forgiving to yourself (This can range from dealing with a huge amount of trauma to something as small as staying indoors for three days because you said something embarrassing to your crush/co-worker. In life you need to give yourself room to fail because failing gives you more opportunities to learn from than from your successes. This especially applies when someone mistreats you and dwell in your regrets on how you handled the situation. Just remind yourself that failures aren't failures, they're learning opportunities.)

So yeah, maybe we don't have the looks or the confidence to think that we should be loved. But that's far from the truth, because once we learn to love what makes us who we are, we eventually attract people who can tall that and start to admire that part of ourselves. Remember, if someone says "this is ugly people talk" take a deep breath, act like an adult, and calmly yet assertively tell them "I didn't ask for your opinion you walking hemroid" and walk away. 😂