This post has been de-listed
It is no longer included in search results and normal feeds (front page, hot posts, subreddit posts, etc). It remains visible only via the author's post history.
I matched with this girl on Hinge on October 17th. Pretty girl, seemed very sweet. Eventually we had moved from Hinge to Instagram, and I sent her memes here and there, we talked a little bit.
Got her number. Everything was going so smooth. She was so kind. The last text I got from her was October 25th. It was a Friday night, and I was looking to make some plans, go out, get to know her. Nothing.
Texted her the next day, wanting to go out. Nothing.
Sent her a couple reels on Instagram that were funny to make her laugh. No response.
Texted her Thursday, just curious if she was okay and, again, wanted to see if she wanted to go out this weekend. Nothing.
At this point, I figured she had either ghosted me, or something was very wrong. Deep down, I thought the latter, because she seemed way too nice to just not say anything.
So last night, I decided to do my social media stalking. Because I followed her on Instagram, I saw a post she was tagged in. This was posted 3 days ago from her cousin. The caption was talking about how she "fought a good fight" and how tough the world was. My stomach was in my throat.
Doing more internet sleuthing, I saw a post from her dad, posted 4 days ago. He went on talking about how his daughter was dealing with substance abuse, he went into detail... It was fentanyl. She was in the hospital on life support, and her family decided to pull the plug, according to his post, doctors said there was "no chance" of her coming back.
While I never got to meet this girl in person, I can't shake the feeling that I could've done something, maybe I should've called her, or maybe she wasn't too interested in me after all, and I was being too much. While I'm okay, knowing I never got to personally know this girl, or had any personal connection, I can't shake the feeling that maybe I could've done something, or said something. I'm just in complete shock that just a week ago, we were texting. And now she's gone.
Deep down, I don't think I would've made much of a difference, I think it still would've went the same way, as I'm just some stranger off a dating app. But this whole situation is just so surreal and I'm still having a hard time knowing this girl is dead now. I guess I just wanted to find a place just to talk, I apologize if this is the wrong sub.
Horrible man. Iāve had the same feeling with a friend from grade school that I hadnāt seen in YEARS, and I was with another buddy who I kept in regular contact with since we all went to school together..
We were debating about inviting him out to the event we were going to, and decided against it for various reasonsā¦
Turns out he committed suicide literally 2-3 days later:( I get goose bumps thinking about it.
At the end of the day, logically, sometimes peopleās ātime has comeā, and thereās something we can ALL do, always, but none of us have a crystal ball or magic wand my friend.
It is what it is, and we must face the fact that we canāt be everywhere, for everyone, JUST at the right time, to say the right thing, that changes them in the right way.
Sorry my friend.
Post Details
- Posted
- 4 weeks ago
- Reddit URL
- View post on reddit.com
- External URL
- reddit.com/r/Life/commen...