I currently identify as queer/pansexual. I’ve been in a relationship with a male for three years now. For the past few years I’ve been sort of grossed out by cum (from a penis)… but the past few months it’s gotten a lot worse. I can’t stand the smell, taste, look, texture, or having it anywhere on my skin. I don’t know what this change could mean. I still enjoy penetrative sex and am attracted to a penis. My sex drive varies. Some weeks I won’t be very interested in sex or even physical touch (depending on anxiety or another mood). Then others, I experience a much higher sex drive. I’m not sure whether this means I’m interested only in people with a vagina? Or if I’m on the ace spectrum or a combination of both? I sort of feel guilty about it because my partner has a much higher sex drive than I do.