I have been talking to a woman for like a month and we got really close over texts, calls & FaceTime and were only able to meet last night cos of schedules. We both wanted the date. We are both femmes, She's 39, I'm 28, not that any of that matters.

We had a great date, lots of laughter and we were both excited that there was chemistry IRL. Long story short, the bill came and she just looked away and kept talking about something random. Now I was okay to pay my part or even ask to split but I was so disappointed that she didn't do the usual cheque dance. And I didn't want to ask her cos it was really awkward.

The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth. She also did not say thank you, or oh no let's split. She only said thank you when she called me on the phone and said I was awesome for buying her dinner. Honestly like her, and she wants a second date, but I feel like she should have offered to pay for her own meal.

My friends think its a Red Flag, and that she's older and should have known better. Normally I split the bill, but since she didn't offer, I had to pay $139 for dinner plus tip, which really sucks. She has been texting me as normal but I am so shocked. Not upset, just shocked at this point. Can't talk about it with her, so I need some clarity! I only started dating again after 5 years in a relationship. Any thoughts?

P.S. Thanks to everyone for the comments and great tips. No I did not ask her out. She suggested we met but I did reschedule. Yeah I should have asked to split but her behaviour was stunning. There was no acknowledgement, it was like the waiter was a ghost. Again, thanks. She sounds excited and she's making all these suggestions for our next date, but I have not been very responsive. I think I'm going to take a step back.