context: me (20f) & my gf (19f) have been dating for 2 months (yayyy anniversary today!) and i’m feeling a bit down. for me, i don’t really ever get into serious relationships. i don’t have good dating history (all my exs cheated on me LMFAO) so i tend to stay clear of relationships unless i really am serious. i also date to marry lolz. however, i met my gf on hinge and we hung out and then we started dating. she always texted me and wanted to be around me, we always made plans to see each other (medium distance relationship, ~2.5 hrs) and i felt really good! i am really happy. i’ve never been treated how she treats me with so much kindness and affection. it was really good and i felt very confident and comfortable with where we were at.

lately though, i just feel like she might be getting bored or maybe im just too attached, and now that things are becoming less new im overthinking? like she stayed with me for ~4 days, and last night she told me that my affection is making her feel a little drained and that she doesn’t want to pull away but it’s like subconsciously she is. understandably, i was hurt by that but i tried to understand and give her space. she said that in the past she’s broken up with people because she feels too suffocated. i wasn’t trying to make her feel that way at all. i’m just naturally really physically affectionate when i care about someone (hugs, kisses, little touches etc) i just don’t know how to fix that part of myself to try and accommodate her as well. i really am afraid that my affection is pushing her away. but im also a little confused because at first she was just like me, showing lots of affection but now it’s like she wants me around but at a distance. i’m just at a loss. she told me she still likes me and still wants me, and i do too. i just don’t know what changed or why.

sorry for the long post, i have no gay friends and i don’t really want heteronormative relationship advice. thank you! 💕