When I was younger and presented as feminine I felt uncomfortable and like I was putting on a costume and performing femininity (and failing) and it didn’t make sense to me because I picked out that dress because I thought it was so cute and pretty?? But then I realised that feeling I get when I see pretty feminine things is not “oh I want to wear that” it’s “oh I wish I had a gf to get this for so I can see her be happy in it and admire her in it.” Finally realising that has helped me become more comfortable in my masculinity and my identity as a non-binary lesbian so shout out to all the fems and femmes; femininity felt like a burden on me but you all wear it so well and allow me to see the beauty in it without having to force myself into it