For context, I’m 5’4”, short curly hair, I’m not a masc but I’m not femme either. I look very in between. I could pass as a very feminine gay boy. Maybe the same femme/androgynous vibe Ruby Rose gives off…… maybe? Not sure.

The thing is, lately I’ve been very interested in exploring my sexuality. I’ve always been focused on my career and making money. Now, I want to date girls, but I have ZERO SKILL approaching women. My type is femme tops. God I love a dominant femme, I melt for them. That’s almost like a unicorn in here since in my culture it’s not common that girls are open about being gay. They’re not in the closet but they don’t use pins and stuff. Also, A LOT of them are “exploring” and I don’t want that, I want a serious committed relationship. Not serious in the beginning of course because we don’t know each other and that pressure strains the relationship but that’s my goal, marry someone. I’m a lover girl. So any girl openly lesbian here are usually promiscuous. I am pretty good looking and can make good conversation, got manners, I’m educated, and I’m also very adult/organized which isn’t common in girls my age (F24).

Please I need tips on how to approach femmes, without making myself too available or scaring them if they’re not gay.