I'm asking for a less condemnation and relationship bashing. I know reddit generally is like this but can we be better? If someone is posting about an issue in their relationship, they probably are acknowledging the issue and looking for help. There are of course post that deserve red flag and run comments, but the majority don't. No relationship is perfect and I doubt the majority of people are thinking of leaving their relationship or hurting their partner when they post here. The posts are just a snap shot and can't sum up a whole person or relationship. And barring abuse, after years of being with a partner, a bad statement or a sexual frustration are not reasons to run.