I entered college this year and it has been... a wild experience in terms of being exposed to so many other queer women. I am very obviously queer (not butch but on the masc side, tall, deep voice, etc.) Some girls had mild crushes on me in high school but nothing crazy. This year is so different. I know this sounds narcissistic but I'm not 100% pleased by it -- I've had multiple friends ask me out this year, every time I go out I have probably 5 girls hit on me, consistent daily matches on dating apps, you get the gist.

HOWEVER (big however as the first part sounds crazy braggy), I still haven't dated anyone, had sex, kissed anyone etc. since me and my ex girlfriend broke up (in my second to last year of high school. 2 years ago.) We dated for over a year, ages 15-17, and it was very serious and intense. I was genuinely in love with her and would say I still was until recently. I've made progress in moving on from her in that sense that I've limited contact but it pains me to think about other people because it was so instantaneous with her. When girls come up to me I say thank you and smile but nothing more. I feel like I've disadvantaged myself by falling in love so young.

What should I do? I have been scared to hurt people by getting into situations knowing I'm internally making comparisons to my ex / was still into my ex or in contact with her but this can't go on forever. I'm not asexual -- people have assumed I am because of the aforementioned behaviours but in the 2 year period where I was sexually active I was... very sexually active. Would pushing through the discomfort and just trying to kiss or hit on a girl be advisable or complicate things further? any advice would be very much appreciated.