Hello, I don’t know where else to talk about this because it’s a bit embarrassing. But I’d really appreciate any sort of advice or opinion.

I feel incredibly insecure and paranoid about other’s people’s sexualities. I’ve had an ex who dated a man before me, and because of that I couldn’t fully accept that she was a lesbian despite the fact that she is. I’m also currently talking to a girl who’s a lesbian, and I felt incredibly anxious because she described her coworker’s boyfriend as “very handsome”.

I grew up in a conservative country so I didn’t know a lot of gay people, and most of my exposure to LGBT people and female homosexuality was through social media. I’m just scared that the girls I like will end up finding the right guy, and that I’m the only girl who’s truly not into men romantically nor sexually. I don’t know if what this is some sort of OCD but it’s starting to really bother me and I just don’t wanna keep ruining any potential relationship because of paranoia and insecurity of men.