DISCLAIMER: long post. Context is provided at the end.

We should all take a look at the “ debate” that is going on in the comments and take it as a lesson that the people that don’t know what they are talking about and/or have a ‘’limited’’ view on certain subjects will be the loudest and the less tolerant of other people's perspectives on the said subject.

So, for all of you that think that because you don’t watch gay porn that it makes you somehow a better, a more authentic ‘’lesbian’’ or  a more authentic ‘’woman loving woman’’, well, here are a few things:

1- Even if your relationship with your sexuality is first and foremost a personal journey, it doesn’t mean that you are reserved the right to call the shots on every possibility that pertains to the history of people’s sexuality as a whole and doing so,solely based on your personal opinions and biases.

2- No matter what you think, your very niche opinion is not an “absolute truth” that can explain away a series of acts, behaviors, and even feelings that some people have gone through decades before you came into existence and that will probably continue decades after you are no more.

3- Patterns and behaviors regarding sexuality, sexual acts, and arousal can all fall under something called science. It can be studied, researched about, and have cold hard facts within it that pertain to a group of beneficiaries.

4- In this case, goole is free and investment in knowledge is never ill-spent. So, here are a few pieces of research that share light on why some women loving women watch gay porn. There are also a couple of other researches that explain arousal patterns within women in general compared to men.

I. ‘’Study finds sex differences in relationship between arousal and sexual orientation’’, April 2003, vol 34, N0.4, American Psychological Association. (cover story- 2 min read). It says that women regardless of sexual orientation are turned on by any type of porn while men whether they were gay or not tend to stick to a type of porn that concords with their sexual orientation.

II. Lesbian porn. Anything girl on girl: Young women’s understandings of their engagement with lesbian porn, C Meehan- Porn studies, 2021. The lesbians in this research talk about their preference for watching gay and lesbian porn as opposed to the heterosexual one that is seen as unequal and degrading for the women involved.

III. Spanish women and pornography based on different sexual orientation: an analysis of consumption, arousal, and discomfort by sexual orientation and age, Christina Gimenez-Garcia et Al, Sexuality, Research, and Social Policy 19, 1228-1240, 2022. The same intake as the first research, it goes further to say that lesbians usually watch porn that is different from their actual sexual orientation aka Gay male porn.

IV. ‘’Male gays in the female gaze: Women who watch m/m pornography’’ by Lucille Neville, Porn studies, volume 2.2015- Issue 2-3, 7 Sept 2015. Concludes that ladies regardless of sexuality are hooked on gay male porn.

V. Sexual orientation versus behavior-different for men and women? Elizabeth Brown and Paula England, February 29, 2016, sexuality and Inequality, Context magazine. It Says that sexuality is fluid. That is for the ''Einsteins'' that were being mean to people saying the same thing in the comments.

VI. A very self-explanatory title: Research shows women are more sexually fluid than men. It is based on the book by Lisa Diamond discussing the same issue. (they were using different types of sexual stimuli to verify their hypothesis.)

VII. Sexual orientation vs. Erotic orientation, Emma- Schmidt .com, February 20, 2021 (blog). It means that what you identify as and what you are turned on about can be two different things.

Let’s not forget the several news articles that are from mainstream media outlet or not. Media that caters to the LGBTQ community or not which also write about this behavior of some of us. (some of those news articles below.)

• ‘’Study: Many women prefer gay male porn because it’s authentic’’, Gay news, (07/2018) -’’ Why women watch gay porn ?’’, the Gay and lesbian review (02/2020) -’’ Sexuality: why do some straight women and lesbians watch gay porn?’’ OUT front magazine, (02/2013)

‘’Gay porn: I am a lesbian who loves male porn. Here is why’’, Pink news (01/2021) - ‘’The lesbians who love male gay porn’’, The daily beast, (07/2010) -’’87% of queer women are into porn or erotica, but not all of it is lesbionic’’, autostradle ( 08/2015) - ‘’women watch gay porn more than men do’’, the Independent (10/2014) - ‘’Why straight women may prefer lesbian porn’’, per sex therapists, Women’s health 06/2021

Etc….

1. Still for the ones that think they are ‘’better lesbians/ women loving women’’ than others, you also tend to overuse the identity politics or biphobia argument when people don’t agree with you.

Fine, let’s be practical for a moment. First, unless you are 16 and hung up on being in a ‘’social tribe’’, you can’t identity politics your way into life/ into viable relationships with others. If it was the case, the straight women that are tired of men and want to go to the other side would have succeeded by now.

As for biphobia, well…. researches again have proven that bisexual women regardless of their preferences, for a vast majority, end up in a heteronormative relationship because it is easier to get into ( societies are more accepting of straight presenting relationships), and more male options (that is Maths).

So why on earth, a woman who by your logic watches gay porn therefore she should be considered  bisexual because apparently she wants to sleep with men wouldn’t take that opportunity? LGBTQ life is that Easy breezy that she wants to continue chilling with us? I am just saying, ( of course, I am being sarcastic).

I know that you probably mean well but your ‘’purity mindset,’’ and the : “ I am a real lesbian because I don’t do that’’,

‘’ I have never heard of that so therefore it isn’t true nor valid’’,

"I have some gay male friends and they don’t watch lesbian porn’’,

“ I can’t bear the scent of a man or I will not objectively find a man attractive so if you can tolerate their presence or not repulsed by them therefore you aren’t a real lesbians” etc….

All of those make you insufferable.

CONTEXT : someone posted recently that they like watching gay porn. Some comenters were being narrow minded in the comments, questioning the validity of OP's sexuality and they were using their own biais to do so. I decided to answer back by posting because those kind of comments can be very damaging and bring shame. It is infuriating considering the fact that the bearers of those comments clearly don’t know what they are talking about and uses over-generalization to spew their nonsense.