Would like to hear your thoughts and experiences on this. Even with all the education, self-learning, "healing and growth" that you did to become better men, do you still manage to find community and spaces that allow you to exist and be yourself without feeling like you're a "potential threat"? While I have found a few here and there that are small, scattered, and online, it's mostly a ghost town. And when trying to integrate into more "diverse" spaces, I have never made any close connections that feel meaningful or connected in such a way that I can feel "they have my back, I have theirs." It really just felt performative and like I was just "a body to tolerate."

I still definitely call out shitty behavior that I see in any space that has men when needed, but I can now see why many men are giving up on trying to integrate into what they thought would help them find belonging and community. And many of these men aren't even trying to offload emotional labor and etc. They are legitimately eager to take on that labor themselves to explore and learn. It feels like the goalposts are constantly moving on what being a wanted "healthy man" is and because those who are neurodivergent tend to think very intensely about ourselves and how we are affected in our environment, that would cause a lot of damage and self-doubt over time which can lead vulnerable neurodivergent men down the wrong paths when just a few years ago they may have been okay.

Edit: I might be confusing the terms "progressive," "leftist," or even "liberal" as someone suggested in the comments, different spaces that may fall under those term (which admittedly I'm not adept at all the labels)