Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here, I hope you guys are doing well.

I’m not sure why I haven’t been in a relationship or had sex with another man yet. I know I had plenty of chances and talking stages that almost worked out, and would’ve led to something more but I always felt uncomfortable and set the boundaries whenever things reached a certain level.

I mean now, I like the idea of dating and meeting new people, but a part of me is still really uncomfortable at taking that step. I sort of resent the gay dating pool and culture (it’s a flaw of mine), and I feel too insecure and inadequate for intimacy. I don’t know what to do, I think I have this idea in my head that before I love myself, I need to be another person or look another way. It’s toxic. I wanna feel like that bitch before deciding to bulk up, or start working on myself.

Help?