Background info: I (M23) plan on visiting my gf(F20) in India in about a month. We met as friends on reddit roughly 7 months ago and it developed from there. I told my parents about her about 2 months ago. They were skeptic about it (being an ldr) but at least seemed happyish about me finally meeting someone. I live alone, she lives with her family, and the culture differences are rather big between Finland (western) and Indian culture. Especially when it comes to dating/premarriage having a partner etc. Neither of us has had a let's say "proper" relationship prior.

The "problem" As mentioned I want to visit her in India, but my parents don't approve of this. They basically hate the fact that my gf is lying to her parents about the situation. And decieving them, not telling them about me. But my gf says which I believe is that it's kind of the only way to go. Since her parents would probably hate the thought of a white guy from abroad and would do who knows what as punishment.

My parents really seem to dislike this idea, of her having to lie, and they are basically begging me to reconsider and not go. Parents keep saying "sure it's wonderful to have a crush, but will it really last, are you sure, why not try dating a Finnish girl, is she scamming you, what are the future plans.

And idk, in somewhere all this I'm a little conflicted(which I hate btw). I know I should be thinking like, fuck their openions I will fly to visit her. But for some reason it's hard for me to see my parents on the verge of tears asking me to not go. I don't want to make them sad either. Idk what to do and I hate this sm. I really want to go see her, we get along so well online.

TLDR: Parents disapprove of ldr especially visit, hers don't know and mine dislike it.

How can I know what is the right option, will my and/her parents eventually accept the partner their child has chosen, and what if not?

(Ps my gf will see this too, she reads reddit despite deleting it, yes I'm calling you out)