So back in October I got in a fight with my ex. It was our first fight and I said something inconsiderate, but it wasn’t an end all thing. She told me she just needs a few days to cool off.

Well, a few days later she is still different. And I try to talk to her about the fight and she just gets mad at me.

This cycle continued for two months. I tried to talk about it she got mad, and more distant.

Until one day she told me she knew I wanted a second chance but she didn’t think she could give it to me. That I was putting her off more, and that we could just be friends.

Well I wasn’t very happy she didn’t want to tell me why she felt this way and I kept pushing. So she ghosted me.

So I decided to just go a week, no contact, but it was around Xmas and she sent me a gift cause I said I was sick before our argument. I broke no contact, to thank her, but she was still very distant. Then she ghosted more. I told her I eventually I’d like to talk. She told me to have a good 2024 and that maybe we could eventually talk. Never mentioned my Xmas gift to her.

I waited a month of no contact, and sent her a card. She broke no contact and told me the truth is she had resented how I hadn’t found a real career yet and that it seemed like most days I was playing while she worked hard. I’m self employed so my schedule is not as rigorous.

She told me she didn’t want to tell me that cause she didn’t want to hurt my feelings. So she bottled those emotions up and said she was almost over the resentment, but then we had our fight and that set her off. I told her I wouldn’t have been mad if she told me you front. She also told me some other things about me that bothered her.

She then told me to get a job and a girl and that she didn’t want to go backwards, but who knows what the future holds is she said. Kind of an interesting statement. She also said that we could maybe eventually be friends.

The convo was going good and I was trying to explain that I was going back to school to try and get a bigger income. I think she felt like I was making excuses for some things and she ghosted me again.

Fast forward to May. I sent her a heartfelt card for her birthday. It was the last thing I planned on sending her.

I got curious though and went to peek on one of her socials. In her bio it said, “I still miss you. You were the only one that understood me.”

I know this is directed towards me but idk what to do. I want to just contact her and confess my whole heart to her that I miss her two, but I’m not happy with how our last convos have gone. I mean I tried reaching out more than once. But she’s the one that dumped me and went no contact but misses me?

What should I do . Contact her or just let the no contact game play. See if she realizes the grass isn’t always greener?

Also she doesn’t always check her P.O. Box so idk if she has seen the letter yet.