We met online a couple of months ago and knew we would be long distance until he was able to figure out a job in the states and I got my life situated. I’m completely fine with that. He still lived in the states when we started talking and he came to visit me for a week after talking for a while and then we made it official. He’s now moved out of the country and is working his new job that he seems to be having some trouble with. I’ve been nothing but supportive the entire time. I give him space and I’m kind to him. I don’t get angry or snap at him ever and I’m just loving and trying to be a support system for him from a distance. Our time difference is about 12 hours so when I’m getting up and ready for my day he is getting ready to sleep and vice versa. Lately he snaps at me or just hangs up in my face if I make any noise at all when he calls me in the morning. I’m usually actively working or doing something since it’s my morning but since he is going to sleep I think he expects quiet. It’s almost passive aggressive when he’s telling me he’s going to hang up and it makes me feel incredibly bad. He controls the communication so our calls are based on him even though I live a busy life. I don’t feel like he’s really interested in me if I’m being honest with myself. He doesn’t compliment me, doesn’t want to video chat much, doesn’t really like anything I post on social media, has never posted me & is slightly aggressive at points and then immediately apologizes when I pull away. It’s just turning into something I don’t want anymore.

Also we had plans to meet up in a couple of months and he is pushing those and saying he doesn’t know about them.

I feel stuck and I don’t want to ghost because that’s shitty but at the same time I don’t want to argue and I just want to go. I’m incredibly depressed and this relationship is tanking my self esteem. I don’t know what to do