First let's state the obvious - there's basically no good way to ask someone you know in real life if they're into D/s, bondage, and CNC without that question & discussion potentially blowing up on you and ruining your friendship or relationship. If men ask the question, they come off looking like a creep or a rapist, and if women ask it, they look like they're damaged goods or, worst case, asking for violence from their partner. But this is online where we're just anonymous words on a screen and strangely enough it makes it easy to be ourselves and to ask for what we want.

I'll go first - I'm a well educated professional (tech, finance, professional writing) who lives in an upper middle class neighborhood, and I know that need a certain amount of control and intensity to take pleasure with a woman, and I also know that a lot of women have fantasies about being on the other side of that - actually according to the research its so common I'm not even sure it can be called a fetish.

But for me, in order to make that work safely and get the most out of it, it needs to be with someone that I know and can build long-term trust with, and most likely someone on a similar socioeconomic level as me, i.e. middle class and above, who communicates well and isn't into drinking excessively, drugs, or other risky behaviors and that won't scare the neighbors. So I'm really looking for the girl next door with a dark romance fantasy she wants to explore, and that wants to do it safely (i.e. one safe guy rather than a bunch of risky hookups).

Other than my Dom. Bondage, and CNC interests, I am surprisingly vanilla. I like training w/ light impact, restraints, edging / denial and a bit of humiliation / degradation, training my partner to be a luxury pleasure toy and keeping them on the edge and then finally giving them their own release when they've earned it. Or if they're feeling bratty, forcing the issue and taking what I need.

Sounds like fun? Believe me it's seriously fun stuff, and educational too. One thing I don't do is chat role play, but that's actually good because we can just talk like normal people instead of trying to be "on", and you'll find I am relaxed and easy to talk to. So click the chat button and let's talk about our dark romance.