This week I was talking to a woman online who was into D/s (with her being the s) and we started cracking jokes about what a first date would look like. She really liked the idea of a guy showing up with flowers, six feet of rope, and a paddle with her name on it with a pretty flower design so that when it smacked her ass, it would lave a cute print haha.

But then we started to talk seriously about what a D/s first date would actually look like. My favorite idea was to have a woman spend a night with me in bed with me in handcuffs and anklecuffs. I'd spend the time getting to know her while she was sexually vulnerable, which would be a huge turn-on for both of us. The whole night I would tease her and she would have to wonder how far I was going to take it.

We also came up with a D/s second date, a normal restaurant date, but with CNC roleplay at the end - basically a date rape fantasy for all those women who read far too many romance novels and can't get off any other way haha. By the second date you already know if you have chemistry and what each other's limits are, but the relationship is still new enough for each other to still feel like strangers.

Well, those were our ideas. How do they sound to you? And what's your idea? And what would actually motivate you to turn your fantasy into reality?

As for me, well I'm an older, stable, financially successful professional with no depression or anxiety, so the only question left is WTF am I doing on Reddit? And my only answer is that I don't meet too many interesting women in my day to day so through sheer effort and determination I have turned this site into a passable BDSM dating app LOL. And surprisingly some of the people I meet her are pretty cool.

So If you're honest, authentic, a good communicator, and like to share crazy stories we'll probably get along online. And if you've ever fantasized about an older authority figure taking what he wants from you, then we might be compatible in real life too. And finally, if you've read this far, then you have no excuse at all not to click the chat link and say hello. Talk to you soon!