I'm a 41 year old woman; it is unlikely I will get another Brazilian in my life (I love the feeling, really more of an effort thing at this point, tbh), although I do keep trimmed

I'm not thin, but nor am I fat; I suppose I'm chubby

I'm very smart and real funny; I'm exceptionally kind and empathetic, and I give great head

I found out my long-term partner was cheating on me, and kicked him out last year (I've since been tested and am clean)

I would love to have my pussy passionately eaten, I am so craving a dick in my mouth, and I love a little choking and to be tied up

But I've got a full life, and I don't want a partner or boyfriend, but I DO want someone I can fuck and who will fuck me, and I want to have an actual connection with that person - we aren't moving in together, but maybe we hang out for a bit before/after getting off?

While we don't need to have all the things in common, I don't fuck with misogynists, homophobes, transphobes, racists, etc. - I wouldn't say I'm a communist, but I'm real left-leaning

Is there a single guy aged like 30-55 out there who'd be interested in first being friends (as you might guess I have a bit of a trust issue thing, and I'd also like to feel safe with someone I want to tie me up and have their way with me) and getting to know each other, with the expectation that we're also fulfilling these other needs for each other?