so, i know that it is usually recommended that soft gamine tailor clothes to their bodies, but i don't feel comfortable with doing so due to not being as comfortable with my body yet.

i am 5'3 and fluctuate from 124-135 pounds. my bust is 36 DD and here is where my problem lies. when i gain weight it goes to either my bust or my pudge. i also don't really have an ass. at my smallest and healthiest (diet, exercise) the pudge is still there. if i had an ass then it would balance it out more but instead i'm small with boobs and a pudge. i have been told that i just need to tone and that my body is fine but i view it differently. i know that wearing things that aren't form fitting usually makes me feel frumpy, but i wear that more so often. my style is more alternative so it does give leeway to how i style my clothes rather than a preppy style. i tend to pair my outfits with a jacket/coat so that you can only see the outfit and not my silhouette. a comment i have received is that i dress well but then i cover it with a jacket. i'm not sure what to do and how to help it without either just accepting it or getting surgery (either tummy tuck or reduction.)

i'm almost there with how i want to dress but i am kinda sick of the outerwear. i was just wondering if there are any people that struggle with this and hold themselves from how they want to dress. how have you overcome this or are you still dealing with it? i would love to hear that i'm not alone in this.