I’m new to Reddit, new to thinking about the swinger community. I’m posting this to get some encouragement from people who have gone through the same thing. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years. I am very hyper-sexual and he is the complete opposite. You’d ask, then why marry him? We were friends for 10 years before dating. He was always the good guy, the kind you want to have kids with. So I put my crazy fuck buddy days behind me and decided I’d settle down for one cock for the rest of my life. Well that cock NEVER fucks me. He has major issues that I didn’t learn of until after tying the knot. ED, ptsd from verbally abusive step father, confidence issues from being really unhealthy in his younger years, not much sexual experience, thyroid issues, sleep apnea, adhd… and I’m sure more that I don’t even know of (like is he asexual? Gay?) he says he’s not…. Then why isn’t he dying to fuck his nympho wife’s pussy? I know it’s a mental thing, which is why we have both been in individual therapy AND couples counseling for 2 years, with not much progress to show. Kicker is - he won’t let me see other people. I feel like that’s the one thing that could save our marriage. If he’s not sexual- cool…. But I am- so why won’t he let me be me? What do I do… divorce scares me as we have a daughter and I truly love having a partner. Would I be fulfilled with only sexual partners going forward? Is it possible to find someone that that would be loyal and fuck my brains out for the rest of my life, go to sex clubs with me, & have fun with others? Can you even have that life and be a fully present mother? I don’t want to share custody. But if I did - I would miss her when she wasn’t with me, so how would I enjoy time with my sexual partners if I felt like a guilty mother? I could use some encouragement from anyone who has gone through the same… 😔 I mean even on our honey moon… he couldn’t get it up for me in lingerie after not fucking for almost a year. I feel so worthless even though I have old flames who beg to fuck my brains out.