From my experience, after trying apps like Feeld or Fetlife. It feels impossible to meet people and get matches. I layout on both places what I’m looking for(submissive, cuckolding/flr) but I never seem to get any response. I’ve been on dates with some women who are active in the local community but none panned out.

Admittedly it’s hard to get to events/munch’s without a car. But it does feel like unless you’re vetted, you are not welcome in the community and you will be met with suspicion and skepticism to what your intentions are.

I’m just a weird kinky dude who’s lonely and wants friends/to date. It feels weird and uncomfortable how I’m seen as a threat and that I’m generally not welcome to most events.

I’m not allowed at any sort of swinger events and any sort of meetup/play session is double the price of admission for single men.

I get the reasons why and it’s done to keep out predators and bad faith actors. But it’s depressing and kind of upsetting to be viewed so poorly by default.

Should I just give up and try to move on from kink? Should I just stay in my lane and stick to vanilla relationships?