So I've posted in JNFamily and JNMIL about my family and my own mother before and I often stalk this sub. But today i need you lovely people to help me.

A little backstory: My family (maternal side) became very toxic and very JN after the deaths of my grandparents and mother. I went NC with that side of my family except for two cousins who have always been JY. One aunt in particular is especially JN, this aunt is the cause of recent turmoil with my dad. My eUncle, JNAunt's husband, passed away yesterday. The funeral is next Wednesday. I told my father I don't want to go for my own mental health, he knows I don't want to see or speak to this Aunt, he agreed with me this Aunt has gone crazy and this will only make her crazier.

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So one would think, knowing his ADULT daughter has already made a decision to not go and to not sacrifice her mental health, he would be ok and agree with me right?

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I wouldn't be here if that was the case.

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Nope! No, dear people, I am not an adult according to my dad because he said and I quote 'I will think about it'

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He will think about it not letting me go, he will think about letting me stay home to protect myself from my toxic family.

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I don't even know what to do beside if he comes and tells me I am going to the funeral other than say no. I don't have friends that can come get me, I don't work, I don't even have a car to escape in anywhere, I live with my dad. What can I do?