So i live in a rented house, we've lived here nearly 5 years. The letting agents are a bit fussy and the house is a little old but it does the job. The rent is as reasonable as rent can be, it is our first home as a married couple, it's the first home we brought our first baby home to and best of all it is a 30 min drive from the in laws and neither myself or my husband drive. My mil is lovely but my FIL is justno, he has to control everything. When I first started dating husband I loved FIL I just thought he was super kind and helpful, but over the years I learnt that what I thought was help was actually meddling, he has to have the last say in everything and get super involved without invitation. So much so I had to put a warning on my birth plan to hospital staff because just showing up while I was mid way through pushing is the kinda thing he would do. His recent need for control in our lives comes from him wanting us to live in the same town as them. I work in the same town as them and they keep trying to convince us that moving next door to them will be so worth it because I could save myself the £80 a month commute. We kept saying no and explaining that we don't like the schools in the area, don't like the high murder rate, want a house instead of a flat (It's a seaside town so everything is flats), I don't like living where I work to try and avoid bumping into clients (I work with a lot of drug addicts and criminals as an advisor), like our own space etc but this is white noise to fil. Today he came with me to the Drs to watch the baby for me while I had my appointment. He informed me the flat next door to them (literally shares the same walls) is up for sale and they are going to meet with their bank to look into getting a mortgage for it. He wants us to move in, then when he wants the money back, sell the flat and give them their deposit with interest. He thinks it will be a good investment for them and will be worth it to save on the £80 commute and we can stop putting our baby in nursery because they will watch her (I like our nursery and so does baby). They already sometimes just show up and let themselves in our house, if we lived next door he would just walk in all the time! This is the same man who tried to book the hotel room next door to us on our wedding night and got annoyed when we had a baby because it wasn't on his schedule. Why won't he just take no as an answer!