I'm the DIL of Nasty Nana. I don't know if nicknames are allowed on this sub, please let me know though. I'm so glad I found this sub, because i just can't with JNMIL any more. No idea why, but I can't. My very last post, I brought up the fact that we had just lost a child and didn't want any condolences. Still don't, by I was flooded with sorry's. Please, still don't send or comment any condolences. It's hard for me.

It's been a year since I saw my MIL in person. It's been a year since she stole my pain medication after I had surgery and had the gall to ask for more. It's been 10 months or so since she accused my amazing mother with stealing the medication. Its been about 7 or 8 months since we spoke to her I think.

In that time, my husband has officially made Sergeant. We conceived and lost a child, had a wedding, and have been healing. My husband and I have grown closer, and our dreams are slowly falling into place. We're moving home to Hawaii, I'm leaving a super toxic community in the Navy to be a stay at home mom and spend time with our 2 year old son. My son loves the grandparents he knows, my parents. He lights up when he sees his poppop and mapa on the phone. He talks to them 3 or 4 times a week.

His 'nana' on the other hand has divorced her husband, all 4 of her children have stopped speaking to her and she lost her job and moved to a further away state to be with her sister. Her last kid to be speaking to her stopped because MIL absolutely berated her 3 year old for politely asking for a toy. Told my niece horrible things about how no one likes her and such. So my SIL threw her out and cut her off.

My son will never know his 'nana'. The next child I have won't either. She'll never poison my home with distrust and hurt feelings again. She's lost everything, and I feel sorry for her. She did it to herself, and my husband absolutely hates her. I feel so heart broken over it sometimes. He just wanted a good mom, but he got her.

We found out from his older half brothers that she would beat FIL so badly he had no choice but to fight back to restrain her so he wouldn't be grievously hurt . She had been in jail for a huge portion of my husbands life. He just wanted a mom, you know? I feel bad it didn't happen.

I don't know what I expect or want from this post. Maybe a closeout to this part of my life or something. But thank you for reading, and thank everyone who ever commented and was kind to me when I was in a crisis. You guys are amazing