We are looking for a couples therapist but it could take a while to get an appointment during the holidays.

I am consulting with lawyers (under the radar) but it seems hopeless.

My husband is a self-centered asshole. I moved here from another country to be with him. He and his family ignore me or dismiss my needs and today he told me maybe I deserve it since I “hate his family so much and do everything in my power to make sure his mom isn’t happy”.

What he’s referring to, is that my MIL is a JustNo covert narcissist. I have never told my husband that. But she is. Ever since I had our baby, MIL’s been criticizing everything about my parenting (the diaper’s too small/big, you should get that rash checked, etc) you know, just the typical mildly annoying things MIL’s do. She once asked me if she could feed 8-month-old LO ice cream from her dirty spoon. I said no, she scowled at me. She has been wanting LO to herself without me. This raises red flags. She refuses to respect me, she dismisses me as a parent and wants to have LO to herself with my husband (her son).

So, as my therapist suggested, I told him if he wants to raise LO part time with his mother, go ahead. But we can co-parent as a divorced couple with a custody agreement.

I want to move back home. I’m in serious emotional need of family support and I’d love to at least go home for Christmas. He said I don’t own LO and he won’t let me leave the country with her.

I have hardly any money on my own. So do I just continue being emotionally abused by him and his family and let them dictate all our holidays??

This is why I feel so hopeless and stuck.. and please be nice. I thought I was marrying a nice guy who cared about me. He changed. His mother manipulated him when she didn’t get her way.

Currently he’s having a grand ole time watching football and playing with our LO and I can’t stop crying in the bedroom. I just want to go home.