I have a JustNoMIL problem where she’s basically the queen and all her adult children and their little families gravitate around JNMIL and her life (very enmeshed family, and my husband is one of those man baby mama boy types). MIL and SILs are very cliquey and basically ignore me the whole time, treat me like a ghost, but try everything in their power to get my kids to be part of their enmeshed group.

Holidays are always at her house, for example. Redditors in the JNMIL sub would suggest taking my kids and going to be with my extended family, or spending holidays alone with my children doing our own traditions.

If husband wants to spend holidays with his mommy instead of his wife, then fine. Go. I don’t want to spend my holidays with people who disrespect me.

But, what if you have a strong-willed husband who says they’re his kids too and he wants them going to his mother’s house for the holidays? I can’t argue that he has as much right to the kids as I do.

So how do you just take the kids and go where you want without causing a huge ordeal?

I really believe this family’s plan is to push me out of the way and just have my husband and kids all to themselves.