I’ve managed to avoid MIL for almost 3 glorious months. But she’s started to creep back in my DMs and try to guilt DH and I separately to bring baby over for a visit. I mean, fine. It’s been 3 months. MIL is passive aggressive, not the best company, and she mainly only talks to DH when we’re there, and ignores me when I suggest she lets LO play and just leave her alone while she’s quiet, and let her explore her new surroundings. She doesn’t listen, she picks up LO, who starts to cry hysterically and sometimes vomits from crying so hard. Anyway. I just really could use some scripts when we end up seeing MIL at some point (or next time she messages me). I just know she’s going to express that she wants to see LO more. She’ll generally say something like:

• LO doesn’t like me. She’s not used to me. pout
• YOU HAVE to get used to me, LO. I’m graaaaaaandma!
• I wish I could see her more
• when can I babysit?

Like I said, she’s passive aggressive so I’m not expecting a direct question like “can you bring her over more often?”

But, I guess I’m just preparing for battle here. DH has no spine and is easily guilted by his mom, as are all her other adult children.

I am the only one going against her norm/agenda by not bringing my LO over weekly. The others bring their kids over either daily, or multiple times a week.

UPDATE: This morning DH told me I’m a HELICOPTER PARENT. I said no, I’m not. I’m LO’s mom. It’s natural for me to love and protect her. “Ohh but you let your mom hold her when she was crying so we could load the car”. Ummm… yes because my mom doesn’t make passive aggressive comments about it, and she tries to distract the crying with toys, etc. Not getting in her face and telling her to “get used to it”.

They’re calling me a helicopter parent because “I always have to be around”. Ummm… yeah, she’s my baby! I’m not MIL’s baby oven.