My JNMIL’s shitty behaviors are constantly on my mind even though we haven’t had to see her in almost 3 months 🙌

But, I always fear future encounters because DH wants us to visit his relatives on holidays, birthdays and stuff. And there are a lot of upcoming birthday parties.

My JNSIL (flying monkey) has a new baby and I had this epiphany today that I just had to share.

Quick backstory — when my LO was 9 months old, MIL looked me square in the eye and asked me if she could feed her cake (as she held her dirty, germy spoon up to my LO’s mouth). DH was right there. Why did she look right at me? Obviously so she could feel like the victim knowing I’d say no. I already told her we aren’t feeding her any added sugar until she is school aged. And that we are definitely not feeding her sugar as a baby! SIL had the same rule, but SIL actually fed her 1-year-old small amounts and tastes of ice cream, whipped cream, juice, etc. I don’t. No added sugar means no added sugar.

MIL also kept asking if she can feed her ice cream, etc. Always makes me uncomfortable saying no because I know she’s only asking me so she can tell all her relatives and friends that her DIL is soooo controlling, mean, and constantly telling her no and ruining her grandmotherly fun.

To add, what JNMIL and SIL do with SIL’s now-2-year-old is they’ll give him small tastes of sweet treats and then he wants more. So they’ll say, “ok just one morrrrre” and then he wants more after that and has a melt down and then they say, “ok just one more and that’s itttt”. And then he has a tantrum and grandma holds him and shushes him and they all fuss over him and try to cheer him up. It’s revolting. Sadistic. They also try to make my baby cry so they can comfort and cheer her up.

Well, a thought popped into my head today. What if when SIL’s new baby is 8 or 9 months, I look SIL straight in the face while I’m eating dessert and holding her baby and ask SIL, “can I give him some???” While holding my dirty, germy spoon to his mouth? How would she like it??

After all, “I’M AUNTIE!”.

Of course, I could never have the audacity to do something like this. Not even with my own sister who also has a baby, and I’m very close with. No way.

But it really puts it into perspective if you’re like me; always feel bad saying no, and feeling controlling and mean.

Just a thought. Next time your JNMIL does something, imagine if you had a flying monkey JNSIL with a baby and imagine if you could have the audacity to stomp up to her and take her baby out of her arms and not give it back. Or say passive aggressive things to her baby in front of her like, “ohh you poor baby, mommy doesn’t feed you does she? Auntie better take you home and feed you all the yummy treats you want.”

In fact, maybe I should start doing crap like this so the JN’s can see how their shit behaviors feel. 🤔