So ive posted a few times about my JNM and JMSF before (ill link below) but this is a real convo i had with them the other day which constituted the first time I think I have actually won an argument with them ever. I have won plenty of times before but they just would never admit it. Heres what happened.

In August a few of my friends as well as JNM and JMSF are coming out to visit me since i moved across the country at the start of this year. Before they got here, and because its been on my to-do list, I was signing up to get vaccinated. Since im still under 25 I am still on JMSF medical insurance and I didnt realize that i could sign up without it until midway through the upcoming conversation.

So i get to the page where i need this insurance info which i dont have and I realize with annoyance "fuck im gonna have to talk to mom about this..." so I dial the phone, mentally running the conversation through as many scenarios as possible so that I don't get turned around in her manipulation and bullshit. I just want to keep it clean, quick and simple.

She answers the phone and she's in the car with my stepdad on speaker. She opens with her normal happy to hear from me tone until I ask if I can have the insurance information. She asked me why I need it, I was very tempted to throw out the whole "i'm 21 and I don't have to tell you what it's for I just need the info" card but decided that was too aggressive and would start a fight that wasnt relevant, A decision that ended up not mattering. So I just told them I was getting vaccinated for work so that they would think that there was some kind of non-personal motivation.

Any kind of happy demeanor immediately dropped out of that phone call and it became ice cold. Her and stepdad both told me not to get vaccinated, not to trust the government and that neither of them trust the vaccine. They were talking themselves into getting angrier and angrier at me which is when I snapped and said this to them.

"I'm so tired of these conversations going exactly how I expect them to. So you pay your taxes, have Social Security, work for the Govt, get a pension from the Govt, support the troops, vote in every election and are registered nationally and locally as members of a specific political party, but don't trust the government? Even though the same government that you think is trying to screw you is entirely responsible for your quality of life And ability to afford to not trust the government? If I wanted your permission to get vaccinated I would've called and asked you for permission. Just like the last time we had a conversation like this, if you're not gonna let me have the insurance information that I am legally entitled to as an adult because you trapped me under your coverage until I'm 25 then I will go out tomorrow and get my own."

They immediately started talking about how I can't afford my own medical insurance. They are absolutely right but it was all part of the plan. So I unleashed my mic drop.

"I guess I'll just call you when I need help with the medical bills after this vaccine hospitalizes me. I'll just sign up without the insurance I just realized I can do that."

Then i hung up.

As much as it angers me that it always takes money to get my JNs to help me out they called me back about 20 minutes later and gave me the info.

So thats another win in my book, I love my parents but I know that I'll never break them out of their bubble and thinking theyre never wrong. So instead the new strategy is just to show them that im not to be fucked with anymore. Sorry if this seems disjointed, I'm really tired right now but I hope this little bit of victory helps other people see that it's not impossible to win! :)

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