So nevermind my last post, all that hope was dashed just now in one fell swoop. This will be long because im going to try to give you the important parts of this conversation verbatim.

For some context I make music As a hobby and use tune core to pay to release my songs on Spotify. I've been doing this for a few years which my mother knew about because I was only 17 at the time so I was using her card with her permission.

She calls me today gets upset because

"Im being scammed out of thousands, they are charging me every 3 days and youre being screwed too"

Here's the problem, she talks about the credit card statement. I have the website login so I also have a statement of every charge placed. I go and check just to be sure and find out that it's about $20 every other month. Granted there are certain months that I have released more songs than others so there are more charges on those months but it is never more than 50 bucks.

So I say "that is a lie and you know it, I have access to the same statements as you." She asked me to prove it so I sent her screenshots of the statements dated with the pricetag.

She then tells me i misheard her and that she said every few weeks. This is also a lie because this is not the first time she's called me with this exact problem and said the exact same thing. I know she said every couple days, which i point out.

Then the ever present, ever infuriating justNo Nmom line.

"Youre calling me a liar?" click

so I resent her the screenshots and say "yes mom, im calling you a liar. Bold faced liar and now youre in denial that i could ever be right."

So she pivots and tries to tell me that it's not about the money it's about the fact that I am not grateful for the help. To which I responded that the fact that I am not only willing, but actively want to pay her back shows that I appreciated the help in the first place.

Then she says one of the most mind bogglingly infuriating things ive ever heard.

"Well its just coming out of your inheritance" and something along the lines of "how much will they steal before im dead"

and i said "money wont matter if youre dead and if youre going to hold the will over my head, write me out. I want no part of this manipulation." And she started to backpedal, so i double down.

I was absolutely furious, so I typed out the text to end all texts. If me moving out and leaving was going nuclear, this was the tsar bomb. Copied below.

it seems more like you having something to dangle over me. I'm thankful for the fact that I'm able to put my music out with your help but I'm not thankful for the fact that I have to hear about it the rest of the year. If you wanna help me help me, but it seems to me iyou wanna help me to have something to hold over my head and use as leverage and i dont want your help. You said you were being charged every three days. Verbatim. You can change it to say every couple days and then to every couple weeks. I've heard this exact statement from you enough times to know that you said every couple days because every other time you've called me you've said every couple days. I call you out on your lie and all of a sudden you don't wanna talk about it anymore.

I tried when I was in [hometown] to fix my relationship with you. I offered therapy, I tried to fix the way I acted, I asked dad for advice, I asked pastors for advice, I asked my friends for advice and none of it helped because i came to realization that I have fixed my half of the problem.

I was told directly multiple times between you and [JMSF] that I was the cause of problems in that house. I have offered many times over to try to right any perceived wrongs and you refuse it every turn. But the fact that I offered shows that I clearly appreciate it and want to pay it back. I don't think you care about that. your actions don't show that. Your actions show that you want things to hold over peoples heads. the amount of insane And controlling things that you have tried to do is ridiculous. I have brought up the case to multiple people that I was gaslit by you and [SF] and every single one of them agreed with me yet I still give you chance after chance. The hurtful things you say to me, the way you talk down to me and your total inability to take anyone else's advice stands directly in the way of us ever having a good relationship. I haven't done anything for the last six years except own up to my flaws and try to make amends with you but I can't do this anymore. I'm not financially dependent on you anymore I'm not living with you anymore and I don't have to talk to you ever but I still do every single day regardless of the fact that I was lonely and sad my entire childhood Because I never felt like I could please you. I don't know how many times when I was with [ex] I broke down over wanting there to be some kind of solution to this problem but in every single turn you would oppose me. I caught you in your lie and you played victim, Hung up on me and then asked me to prove it. So I proved it and then you conveniently had to go. Completely unwilling to work on this issue because you were wrong.

It doesn't matter what you think anymore. From my perspective you were emotionally manipulative. I'm still here at the table wanting to work things out with you and find out whether I was right or wrong. I went to see a therapist for my issues, And I will never forget that you told me you thought I was shopping around for one that would agree with me and that I should go see a pastor

You have never taken accountability for any of these things that you've said

Meanwhile I Call you back to apologize for times that I was rightfully angry

I don't want to go no contact with you. You're my mom and I love you and I want so desperately for things to work out. But it is not worth me dealing with it if you cannot humble yourself the way that you made me do for 13 years

My friends have agreed that I am in the right. My therapists have agreed that I am in the right. Pastors that I have talked to have a greed that I am in the right. But I don't hold that over your head all I ask is that you come and talk to me like a person. You refuse every single time

Call me if you want to talk about it otherwise I have nothing to say to you for a while