Typing on the app sorry if it’s weird. Okay so my(F22) boyfriend (M22) and I have been together for a little over a year and a half, since our FIRST date, my momster in law has been a PAIN in the arse (I remember her calling literally 15 times until he picked up and then her asking who he was with, where he was going and what time was he going to be home). I have to admit at first once we met we got along and we would go on lunch dates and go shopping, but I noticed from the beginning she was very controlling. I am not. She once told me to turn on the location on his phone and not tell him so she could always track him, I obviously said no and she got very upset. If he went out with his buds for a drink she would tell me to update her every 15 minutes where he was and to call him every 5 to remind him to get home ASAP. If I didn’t, which I wouldn’t because that’s psychotic, she’d get mad and tell me how his ex would listen to her and do it. (His ex was literally crazy and we have a restraining order against her and she even once stole $200 dollars out of my MIL’s wallet!) So due to some family hardships I moved in with them early on with my MIL’s permission and it was never a problem, she loved me and I would help clean around the house and do dishes because my SIL literally didn’t do jack shit and I felt bad. She had a cleaning lady that would literally dust shit, spray Clorox, and do laundry. Needless the say the house was disgusting. I was raised in a Cuban house old where every Saturday you get up, and clean, so id typically keep our areas clean and help out where I could because in a way I felt obligated since I was living here. It got to the point they wouldn’t help at all and once told me “well why should we do it since you like to clean anyways” 😳 that was my reaction, just shocked and didn’t know what to even respond to that. Soon I started to realize that when my bf & I wanted to go out and do something of our own whether it be a date or hang out with friends, my MIL would literally get mad and tell him “they would have to talk” when we got back and typically she’d guilt him into apologizing by telling him we never helped in anything around the house. This was happening every so often, then every couple months, then every couple weeks until now eventually it is literally every other day. Needless to say after over a year of it we are very tired of it. I spent this whole week getting stuff done around the house bc tomorrow we will be gone all day and we knew it would be a problem if the errands weren’t done, My BF told her we’ll be gone tomorrow for a friends bday celebration and she’s managed to find 5 other things we “had to do” which are BS and has told him “If this is going to be the new custom then things are going to f-ing change around here” but truth is tomorrow we are finalizing the paperwork on our new apartment, of which we haven’t spoken a word to her about because last time we tried to get her advice on a townhouse we were going to buy she literally said no we couldn’t afford it AND THEN tried to force us to take over the mortgage on her house & “take care of his sister” (whom is just a 30 yr old lazy b that has taken advantage of everyone around her because of her “epilepsy”) so she could buy an apartment on the beach and get away from all of us. So Reddit, how do we break the news to her that we are moving out and try to somehow avoid a nuclear bomb explosion!

Edit: THANK YOU ALL for your amazing advice and help. There are so many little things y’all mentioned I had not even thought about! Thank you so so much. As soon as we are out of here, I will update on another post and fill you guys in on how it went. But again, thank you for all the advice, I really appreciate it!