JNMIL has been call DH leaving messages stating “I miss you” “I’ll keep calling I speak to you”

As a pre curser DH went NC with his parents after the realization that they have made zero effort in trying to be involved in his life since he moved out and in with me Three years ago.

DH didn’t tell his parents anything he just asked for time and space. (This was in April)

So today for about 2 hours he and I sat and talked about calling. He had a bathroom panic attack and then made the call. He chose to have the phone on speaker (husband has sever social anxiety and majority of the NC is DH has been so anxious over speaking to his parents he gets Physically ill)

Once JNMIL realized she was on speaker (.30seconds in) she became demanding “could I please speak to you privately, after all I did call to speak to MY son” (I frankly didn’t give a crap)

She told him how the past 4 months have been terrible for her and what ever she did or said that she was sorry.

  -before the call I let DH know since

They have zero idea what is going on they will be accusing me of the rift, and encouraging him to Cut them out. Her response to being on speaker seemed To be a confirmation of that theory.

So he told her that them as parents failed him by not treating their children different and that he has a medical diagnosis for anxiety that if they would have believed his behavior as an illness and not “acting out” that he would have been able to be treated earlier and get counseling. There is more but it’s personal.

She did blame me for not sitting down and talking about things the last time I saw them (she made it sound like my family emergency trip down there was me treating their house like a revolving door... a 7hr drive with a 1yr old both ways over three days.) I reminded her that her and her husband were adults and I’m not responsible to read their minds and guess what they want.

So just a rant I guess