Long time lurker, first time poster.

So my and my fiance have been together for 5 years (engaged for almost 6 months) And I just need to vent about my FMIL sometimes. She has a history of butting into our lives and giving unsolicited advice. I'll tell a recent one right now, and any name suggestions for her are welcomed.

I start college this fall for pre-pharmacy, and me and my fiance have debated if we should get an apartment in the city the university is(my hometown) or stay with my dad that was abusive to my mother and who also abandoned my siblings and I at young age(our relationship is better but I still can't stand him sometimes) The thing is my fiance travels for work and is gone at least 2 months at a time(up until now I traveled with him, so we never had an apartment or permanent place of our own) My ideal plan is for us to get an apartment where we'd both pay half the rent, he'd pay for the wifi, and I'd pay the bills since I'll be living there full time. My FMIL tried to tell my fiance I should just suck it up and live with my dad, and that I shouldn't go to college for pre-pharmacy since it was long and expensive and that she was just "looking out for him" because she didn't want him to be stressed paying for rent, and his new car (a car that I don't help paying for because even though I use it more, it's not under my name and we already had a perfectly good car that was paid off already that he chose to sell to his brother and get a new one. So he knew the car payments were fully on him if he decided to get a new one) My issue is, it's none of her business where we live, or what I decide to go to school for yet she still tries to give my fiance "advice" (on my life)

She also recently told him that for thanksgiving she wants all her kids together and that we can see my family for Christmas, it came off like she was telling us what to do and giving us permission to see my family for christmas and it rubbed me the wrong way.

I also love cats, and plan to get one once I get my own place. She has always told my fiance (in front of me) that he, "better not have animals inside his house" Like she any type of say on what we do in our own place. There's more about her that I don't like, but I'll save that for future posts.