I'm so angry I could cry. I'm considering divorce I'm so over it all.

DH and I are both military. DH is deployed. We've had our problems in the past, most of which stem from our incredibly short dating period. However, these days, 7/10 of our arguments are about MIL. Most of our problems with MIL started with the birth of our LO. LO was born prematurely and spent a few months in the NICU. My mom came up to help us and was an absolute angel. Unfortunately MIL got jealous and needed to one-up my mom. She stayed for 3 weeks. THERE WEEKS. I was pulling my hair out at 3 days. She held my premature LO while she was coughing and sneezing. She cried to DH that she wasn't getting time to hold LO when I was only allowed one hour a day by the nurses. She kept bringing up her birth stories and her problems. Every time I got annoyed or Fridays by her overstating her welcome she told me I had post-partum depression. Funny how the doctor disagreed. After my DH forced me to apologise for my "attitude problem" she told me I ruined her experience of becoming a grandmother. Like, B**** my LO is in the NICU and you're worried about YOUR EXPERIENCE????

I'm about ready for divorce because my DH is SUCH an enabler. Everything is my fault. It's almost to the level of gaslighting, because he refuses to see that his mentally ill mother might be part of the problem. He apologizes for me and makes me feel like an ass.

Today she's mad that I'm spending time with my mom while DH is deployed. She "feels like a second-hand grandma" and like I don't like her. She's begging for me to stroke her ego and it makes me sick. I told her off and now I know I'm going to hear about what a jerk I am. I just don't care. There's so much on my mind I can't even post it all.

Thanks for reading and letting me vent.