On mobile, and I don't give permission to share.

I had posted to another sub, but here's the gist of you remember my post from 2 weeks ago (deleted the post because it was shared elsewhere...) :

MIL tried to invite herself to my c-section. I had sent a text saying she was welcome anytime after I had been home for 48 hours. Booked a hotel and everything. DH and I called her and told her it would be best to reschedule. She thought the L&D ward would be open to the public and she could see LO through the nursery glass, and wasn't listening when we told her that's not the case. She also sent $1000 and a bunch of things off of the registry, which now we believe to be her trying to buy her way with us.

She ended up texting DH and said she was mourning missing the birth. Yes, she uses emotional manipulation tactics quite often it seems. Again, she was not invited but tried to also say when they visited us in April I told her to come to the hospital... (I didn't).

I had the c-section and all was well, got discharged and everything was fine. Until I sent MIL a picture of the baby in his bassinet. He had rolled onto his side and was just in a diaper from me doing some skin to skin. I had covered him with a blanket, though. It was very cute and sweet, so I snapped the picture and sent it to her and all she replied with was a heart. I didn't think much of it other than maybe she liked it.

2 days later, she texted DH the following :

"OP shared this picture on Saturday. We didn't understand why baby would be naked (we've sent clothes, diapers, etc.) and is laying on his side. Is he sleeping in his crib? He appears to be breathing through his mouth. Has his nose been cleaned? OPFiance, we have to trust you will keep baby safe and warm, otherwise we wouldn't sleep at night. We love you guys."

I had texted my mom the screenshot and she even called back and just said "What the fuck." My mom doesn't cuss really at all, so I knew she was pissed. We discussed it and I'm NC. DH is LC, but didn't even get a text from her yesterday wishing him a Happy Father's Day. She never asked about my recovery, either. His dad, who he barely talks to, did both. He's actually asked about me a couple times to make sure my recovery has gone well. It's clear I was just an incubator to her. He realized despite how sick I was my entire pregnancy (I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum and am down 36lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight and had several other issues), she never once checked on me. We just realized this the other day.

What I find crazy is she wants to question my ability as a parent, but just in April was praising me on how great my daughter has turned out (she's 2, and from a different relationship). She did send a small gift for my daughter for her birthday, which I debated on sending back but decided it was a gift so no reason not to. My DH did send her a thank you text, and I think she barely replied.

We decided to keep the gifts as I'm a SAHM and disabled so his income is all we have, and for us to scrape together the money to send back would hurt us pretty bad right now. DH is ready to cut ties, though. He even stated he's thinking she may call CPS, which I think she won't or if she does, nothing will happen. I know this because my kids are cared for and have all of their needs met.

Sorry for the long post, but BOY!!! I've been livid about this for the last week.

Edit : after the text DH did clap back at her and told her off! He does have a shiny spine.