Hello all!

My son is now 6 weeks old, happy, healthy and thriving😌 His rash cleared up in a few days, thank god.

Fiancé has been ignoring MIL since it happened, I’ve had a little bit of contact due to Mother’s Day and her birthday and overall just sending pictures of LO when she asks. I sent her flowers on Mother’s Day(she did the same for me as well), and for her birthday I picked out some nice frames that matched her decor and had the baby’s newborn photos we had taken in the hospital printed and framed. She thanked only her son, who had absolutely nothing to do with it other than paying for them😂

Since the day she was kicked out of our house, she has sent a million and one messages to my fiancé saying cruel and horrible things about me. Rather than saying them all at this point, I’ll include the message I sent her today later on in this post that has my favorite ones when I explain wtf just happened😌

She texted me begging me to let her come and see my son, said we wouldn’t even know she was there. This was my response(sans names):

Please reach out to fiancé about visiting LO. There are things you said about me that I just cannot believe would ever come from you. Saying you’re scared for my son and fiancé, the love of my life and father of my child, because I lost my temper on you for causing LO to have to go to the emergency room full of sick people at only 9 days old. Implying that fiancé should watch what he says to you because he will need you to one day to testify for him in a custody case in order to take my child away from me, that he should go to the doctor with me because he doesn’t know if i’m lying about LO’s care, that he should get cameras to make sure i’m taking care of him right, that I lied and blamed you for the rash because I was scared fiancé would yell at me? Just cruel and awful things. I’ve been in your life for almost 6 years, I’m the mother of your grandchild and to see you say those things about me absolutely shattered my heart, I thought of you as a second mother. I own my part in the argument we had that day and will be the first to admit that I definitely could’ve handled it better. I ask that you put yourself in my shoes and think about what your reaction would have been if someone ignored you telling them not to do something to your baby and you saw fiancé with that horrible heat rash all over him when he was LO’s age. I’m a new mom, I was terrified and panicking. Anyway, I will continue to send you pictures and updates when you ask, but I do not wish to have a relationship with someone who could think those things about me.

My absolute favorite one that I forgot to include in my message was that I’m lazy and irresponsible because my house was a mess when she came, AT 1 WEEK PP😭 She said I should already be recovered from birth and there was no excuse for her son and grandson to be “living like that.”

ANYWAY, the shit that ensued after my message is one for the books fr. She said she never said any of that about me(I saw the messages and have screenshots of them but okay), she loves me so much and is always on my side(LOL okay), I’m a liar and she isn’t and I’m the one that did that rash to the baby. She can’t believe i’m doing this to her(doing what?), and asked if I’m really going to keep LO away from her(bitch WHAT😭 I said you can see him, but to handle visits through your son because I don’t want a relationship with you)

She goes on to exclaim that I’m hurting her so much, what did she do to deserve this, how can i be so cruel as to keep my son away from his only “real” grandma(I was adopted🙄), said her life has no meaning without her son and grandson, and that she can’t eat, sleep or work. She says she just wants to die, I’m breaking her heart. She also says that she hopes this never happens to me one day, to which I said that it won’t because I will respect my children and their partners when they say not to do something to their child. She responds “Ok sweetie I will pray for you” and I say “I’ll do the same for you”😂😂😂

I again reiterate that I would love for my son to have both of his grandmas in his life, but she will need to set any visits up with fiancé. He does not want to let her around him at all, for at least a year. It’s all up to him, I’m not telling him no, not telling him to ignore her or anything. His mother and entirely his choices🤷🏼‍♀️

Not once did she apologize for the rash, is still blaming me. Called me a liar and said she never said any of what I literally READ her say. I wish I could say it’s unbelievable, but it’s really not. Just very, very sad.

Anyway, that’s it! I know in my heart that I’m not anything she said, and the hole she’s digging herself with her son is just getting deeper and deeper.