She sent my baby to the ER today, on only his 9th day of life.

Last night she put diaper rash cream all over his body because he was “red.” I asked her not to do that and to keep it limited to his butt only. Obviously she didn’t listen. She took him into our spare room and kept him for the night so we could sleep uninterrupted. She had him bundled in 2 blankets plus his long sleeved footie sleeper, which I also told her not to do. She took the blankets off in front of me and then must have put them back on when I left. I wake up around 12pm(i was EXHAUSTED) and go check on my baby. She doesn’t want to give him to me. I get him back after telling her I just want to check his diaper and I’ll bring him right back.

I take off his sleeper and he has angry red bumps all over his body and all under and up his arms. I freak out because what is that?? She says it’s my fault and I did that to him and she told me he was red, but I told her it was normal. Y’all i would NOT have looked at that and said it was normal, no sane parent would it looked awful and scary. I take my baby back and lock myself in my room and let my fiancé handle her because i’m shaking mad and crying for my poor son. He’s screaming at her, calling her stupid and every other name, and he kicks her out. I don’t drive so I need her to take me to the ER. In the car she’s screaming at me and crying and blaming me for his rash, calling me an evil bitch for “doing this to her.” Telling me how wrong she was about me and how i’m so lazy and irresponsible, etc. I completely disengage and just tell her over and over not to talk to me like that in front of my kid.

She drops me off at the ER entrance and I tell her to park because her son told me not to let her in the room with us. Fine by me, but she says it’s because i don’t want her to hear the doctor say it’s my fault and not hers🫠

All in all we were there for 4 hours, his vitals are great, he doesn’t have a temp, he’s up past his birth weight(GREAT success i was so worried i wasn’t making enough milk because he’s attached to my boob allllll day). Doctor comes in and says it’s a really strange rash. Ultimately, they tell me they looked through all of their resources and diagnosed him with HEAT RASH. They said that because she put the diaper cream all over him and then bundled him up, the diaper cream trapped the sweat moisture on his skin and irritated his sweat glands. It should go away on its own and so just follow up with his pediatrician in a few days.

My fiancé calls her to let her know what she did to him. She says “i’m so sorry i didn’t know” but we TOLD HER!! Then she says I need to respect her, and he tells her why does she need to respect you when you didn’t respect her and what she told you. Cue more crying, cue more insults slung at me and how i’m already a bad mother and he chose wrong and blah blah blah. He hung up on her, but not before telling her that she should be grateful for me and respectful to me always because if it weren’t for me telling him to call her and pushing him to answer her texts, she would never hear from him. His grandma, her mother, calls him and says it feels like i “don’t love them” and other BS about how it’s me who’s the evil and cruel one and how she would’ve never thrown anyone out the way we threw her daughter out🙄 She got hung up on by him too.

Anyway, i owed fiancé a really big apology for not realizing just how insane she was and told him i’m completely done with her. If he wants her to have a relationship with our son, then fine but I will no longer facilitate it and she is not to be alone with him ever again.

Thank god I got 9 ounces with my pump this morning because i need WINE😫